Try lowering the Virtual AI speed to the lowest setting and see if that helps. 25% is the slowest speed.

Regarding AI control, a lot of it comes down to practice getting used to all the number keys. I like to separate my AI into smaller teams (blue, red, green), so I can use more strategy in the field.

Mad Cheese’s Command and Control mod is pretty cool too. I haven’t tried it with ALiVE yet but it’s neat. I don’t use a lot of the more advanced features of the C2 mod, but it helps getting AI to board a vehicle as driver and stuff like that, has decent healing commands, also has a pretty neat feature where you can tell your dudes to clear buildings. Be prepared to mess with it for a few hours before you feel comfortable with it and all the keybinds though. They have a Discord channel which has excellent support if you get hung up though.