So once you have your modules laid out and basic framework down, what are so of those extra bits and pieces of "flavour" you like to add to your mission. Not so much weapons or units, but more "systems".
Most of the time I play single player so ACE doesn't do too much for me at the moment.
I do use Spyder's addons mostly for the civilian interactions. I'm currently trying Psychobastard's A3 Wounding System to give me a medic that actually does something, and to add a bit more to the medical side of things, dragging and carrying units etc.
I would prefer things that work in both single and multiplayer as one of the guys from work is keen to try running some missions after the stories I've been telling him.
Mostly I'm using an asymmetrical OPFOR and actually enjoy walking through towns, speaking to civilians, hearts and minds type stuff, but also the EOD side of things is pretty great too.
Anything that will add more atmosphere is welcome :)